Actress Nelisiwe Sibiya lashed out at individuals who questioned her vrginity in a recent interview.
People frequently inquire, “Is she still itshitshi, or isn’t she?”
In an interview with Daily Sun, the starlet stated that it is an improper question, but that the members of her family are the only people who have a right to know whether or not she has lost her vrginity.
“I wear my clothing exactly how I want to, but I don’t think it’s anyone’s right to know whether or not I’m still a virgin… I don’t think it’s anyone’s right to know whether or not I’m still a virgin.” In my opinion, that is not the appropriate time or place to ask such a question.
“There are some individuals who believe that the manner in which I show myself grants them the permission to express their viewpoint. But it doesn’t disturb me at all.
She added, “Unfortunately, I’ve never heard someone asking a proud Zulu man if he is a virgin,” and that was the first time she had ever heard such a question.
Nelisiwe gave an explanation as to the reasons why she did not go to this year’s Reed Dance Festival, which is reserved for first-timers.
Because of some issues in my personal life, I decided not to go to the dance.
“There is a definite style in which a virgin dresses. She does not conceal anything. A non-virgin woman will typically cover her intimate parts, especially her breasts. “And a married woman likewise dresses in a particular manner,” the other person explained.
“Unfortunately, we live in times where everyone brags about their constitutional rights rather than looking at what culture or tradition tells us,” said the author. “This is not the way things should be.”
It wasn’t always this way, but now life is nicer and more comfortable than it was in the past.
In 2021, she was honored as Actress of the Year at the Screams Awards as well as Best Actress in Africa at the Zambian Zikomo Awards. Both of these accolades were won at the same event.
However, it took more than just a night to become successful. The celebrity, who is now 29 years old, does not avoid discussing the challenging life he led in the years leading up to his rise to fame.
She recently stated on social media that “Yey ngoba umvelinqangi and idlozi (my God and ancestors) have been so trustworthy.” She continued by saying that she would not have made it this far if it were not for her tenacity and the hard work of both she and her mother.
Because I am aware of what it is like to have limited resources, I will never believe that I am superior to anyone, regardless of their social standing. The reason for this is that “ngyakwazi ukuhlupheka mina,” which translates to “I know what it is like to be poor.” “she wrote in a moving post on her Instagram account.
“Shout out to the younger version of me after I completed matric. The ambitious young me who lacked anything except a dream, the younger version of myself who used to ride in three or four cabs every day on the way to my job as a promoter on the streets and in malls.
She claims that despite their family’s financial struggles, her mother always made sure that they did not go to night hungry. “Saving money to go myself to university since my mother was only a street vendor and she couldn’t even afford to buy us clothes for as long as sidle amagwinya asele from ukuthengiswa asele from ukuthengiswa asele from ukuthengiswa asele from ukuthengiswa asele from uku (we ate vetkoeks leftover from her stall).
“The very same mother who would accompany me to the taxi stand between 4:00 and 4:30 in the morning in order to ensure that I would be able to get the very first cab. When I was younger, I used to tell people that in the early mornings, when I couldn’t find a ride to work, I’d find myself sleeping in public restrooms until it was time for my shift.
Nelisiwe reports that the mere thought of bygone times makes her well up with tears. “When I look at myself now, I can’t help but cry. I cry because this is all that my family and I have always grieved and prayed for, and even more is still to come,” she said.
She urges individuals who are experiencing feelings of helplessness to never give up trying. She says, “As the year starts, I know the tension from young people who wants to go to varsities, some don’t have money to even register, and some lost their jobs.” “As the year starts, I know the stress from young people who wants to go to varsities.”
“Some people have lost their spouses, others have lost their parents and other loved ones, and they don’t know where to begin. I am here to tell you to Go For It! Do anything that will help you improve yourself, and avoid telling yourself things like “abantu bazothini,” which means “no one cares about you.” The decisions you make right now will define your future.
She continued by quoting an African adage that reads, “Where you sit when you are elderly reveals where you stood when you were a youth,” which she said was a reflection of her life as a youth.
Before achieving success in the industry, Nelisiwe had admitted in the past that she had been forced to spend the night in a public restroom.
“One day, I’ll tell you a story about how I used to sleep in the lavatory for six months while working as a promotion at the Glen Mall. I’ll tell you this story when we meet again. Ngoba kade sizama impilo, since there are certain individuals who have the intention of merely removing that privilege from us “Nelisiwe wrote.
She also revealed that she had a difficult time coping after playing a traumatic scene on Durban Gen because it brought back memories of how her father was shot and killed in front of her when she was a child. She said that the memories triggered by the scene brought back the trauma.
“It brought back all of the sorrow that I had experienced when I was little, when my dad was shot in front of me when I was eight or nine years old. She wrote on her Instagram account, “all the pain we went through with my siblings when my father was chased down and eventually slain by weapons.”
“I can’t believe how much I sobbed, and how terrible I felt afterward.” My capacity for recollection was severely impaired on that particular day. It opened my eyes to how critical it is to address the traumatic experiences we had as children. I recall that in order to heal, I had to go back to my parents’ house for the entire weekend.
According to Nelisiwe, playing the role of Dr. Mbali has proven therapeutic. Playing the role of Durban Gen’s character has been nothing but a blessing for me. I am putting on a show, yet at the same time I am getting better.
In a different post from the same series, Nelisiwe noted that certain members of her family had a difficult time viewing the hospital-based episode since it reopened old wounds from when her mother was hospitalized.
“It meant a lot to me to be able to shoot these scenes set in hospitals. And now they’re having an effect on my family as well. Because they constantly brought up memories of my late mother’s final days in the hospital, I put a lot of effort into bringing this to life. The extent to which she fought the illness, which was reportedly cancer. She put up a fight, yes. She honestly believed that she would be better, but death was more powerful than her. It was the right time.
In her article, Nelisiwe described how her sister had sent her a text message informing her that she was unable to continue watching the show.
“Yesterday, my sister sent me a text that completely and utterly shattered my heart. She explained to me that ever since I was admitted to the hospital, she has stopped watching Durban Gen because I resemble my mother so closely that it brings up painful memories of my mother’s final days. Take note of the fact that she died in her hands. I became ill at the same time, and right now I’m on my way back home to be with my family while I get better.”